Now that you understand more about the role of the subconscious and how it operates to keep you safe start to identify and record the rules that you created as a child to keep yourself safe, and how these are still running your adult life. Record these on the notes sheet provided.
How they have lead you to be in a narcissistic relationship and identify the fear and the rules that keep you stuck!
The ones that tell you that you just need to accept this
That you cannot leave,
That you will not be ok on your own
That everything you do is wrong
That you are no good and you actually deserve this abuse.
These and many, many more!
Remember that the narcissist has very specifically played on old wounds! Wounds that you shared! Making yourself vulnerable, thinking that you were in the presence of someone who would help and support you!
Instead, this person has taken your wounds, your weak points and exploited them, to further weaken you and enmesh you in a toxic situation that you believe you cannot escape from.
They are the hunter and you are the prey! The narcissist does not seek a partner! He seeks supply to feed his own ego at your expense, without care or compassion, totally devoid of any empathy.
But, we can move on and we can heal and understanding what embroiled us and what has us stuck, will help us to move on.