Realisation 4: Your true self, Your value, and Your worth

Imagine who you can be,

what you can achieve and the impact you will have if the truth of the matter is not that you are inadequate, not enough and unacceptable but, that you are incredible, capable, skilled and gifted beyond measure!

Understand that the people who put you down, diminished you and make you think less of yourself than you otherwise would have were in fact afraid of you! You shone too brightly for them and they could not elevate themselves so, they chose to diminish you!

The following is designed to challenge your perception of yourself.

(please note, as you read the following quote, I am not religious, I have a very spiritual focus but not aligned to any particular religion)

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
- Marianne Williamson


Lets just recap what we have delved into so far:

  • A thorough understanding of narcissistic abuse and its impact on you.
  • A deep dive into the subconscious and how it works
  • A detailed visualisation of your future.

Now it is time to bring some of that together to help you focus on really believing in yourself, your value and your worth.
When you have a clear picture of these, including what you deserve! It becomes much easier to reject anything and anyone that makes you question that

In our Session...

In our session together we will be discussing:

  • What about you is so unlovable?
  • What does it mean to love yourself?
  • What is love?

Key Concepts to Understand

A deeper understanding of each of these concepts will help strengthen your resolve about your value, your worth and what you will accept for and in your life.
You have already started to look at this in your ideal life creator and we will be covering each concept in detail in our training session.

  1. You are not a victim
  2. Your abuser does not have the power!
  3. Gaslighting, manipulation, guilt tripping, chaos, confusion and future faking.
  4. Moving from fantasy to reality.
  5. Expectations and Anticipations.
  6. Creating the cross roads of thought patterns to tap into the power of subconscious to change.

In preparation for our session

Record positive things about yourself.
I know you did this in your future visualisation but, the mind learns by repetition and, it
reacts to the words and images that you feed it so, I need you to keep telling yourself
great things about yourself, keep focusing on how amazing and incredible you are!
Remind yourself!

Now Write a letter a love letter to yourself!

I want you to pour out onto paper everything you need to tell yourself, all the things
you need to be reminded of!
Be your own greatest fan!
Be the cheerleader you are supposed to be for yourself
Literally pour your heart out in celebration of yourself!

Pay attention to how this feels when I ask you to do this.
Is there any resistance?
If no, great!
If yes, then where do you feel it?
What do you feel?
What are the words in your head?
Whose words are they?
If they are negative they don’t serve you so, dismiss them with:
That’s not me!


Week 5 - Live Group Session