Realisation 4: Smashing Through Your Limiting Beliefs and Establishing Unshakeable Self Belief, Self Confidence and Self Belief

While I was in my marriage, for most of the time (the first 22 years!) I did not know that my husband was a narcissist, I just constantly wondered why everything was so hard, why he was so negative, how he could ignore all of my attempts to tell him how unhappy I was and destroy every step I took to try and improve my life.

As we move through this journey and this healing and recovery together I will share so much of myself, be totally open, honest and transparent to help you understand that the details of our experiences might differ but, on so many levels, I have been where you are.

Your ability to see your true self, your value, and your worth

Love should not be conditional

Expectations and anticipations of others:

They were affected as children by their own environment.
It taught them that they were not good enough, that they had to be someone else, believe a certain thing or achieve something to be acceptable.

Your abuser is afraid of you!

what took it away from you

By now you have learnt a lot! So much new information has been presented to you, you are now in a position to really focus on the limiting beliefs that have you stuck where you are!

Understanding the role of the subconscious and drawing on everything that you have learnt up until now, this week is about you doing a deep dive into yourself and really pulling together all of the beliefs that are having a negative impact on your adult life.

These are the beliefs that we need to change!

I am going to remind you of some of mine.

Now complete the following to get really clear on the main influences in your life. Look out for the gas lighting, the blame, the criticism. All the things that undermines you, kept you small and limited your thinking.

What did you hear, what were you told, what did you see and experience

What did you hear in your past

What do you hear today

The narcissists in your life, the people who are abusing you how should they be treating you?

Why are they not?

How is your present a familiar pattern that you are repeating from the past

Powerful meditation to upgrade the child you were

Creating the cross roads of thought patterns, tapping into the power to change

Before we move onto the daily practices of this program that will be a key part of rewiring your programming I wanted to share this with you

I wrote this piece one day as I was feeling in my body the reality of the uncertainty, the inconsistency of being in a narcissistic relationship. I called it “Disarmed and dropped from a great height” because in my experience, that is how it feels, the rollercoaster ride that you seemingly can never leave and never stops.

Well, thankfully I did get off! and so can you and that is why you are here and what I will help you to do. To break this cycle, for yourself, for your kids and for future generations.

The following is designed to challenge you and set the tone for the next 8 weeks.

(please note, as you read the following quote, I am not religious, I have a very spiritual focus but not aligned to any particular religion)

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
- Marianne Williamson