Not with quite as much style and finesse as Carrie Bradshaw or Bridget Jones
I have been pondering the question “Why do women need men?”
In this modern day and age we can be completely independent. Earn our own money, buy houses, travel and generally look after ourselves. We can even have children these days without men ( sperm banks). We can simply procreate and then do our own thing without them so, why do we still WANT or NEED them? Especially when sometimes it seems more trouble than it is worth……
Some of the answer is in our past, approx. 40, 000 years ago actually. Our environment, culture and emotional interactions and understandings have all moved on at a rapid pace but, our DNA has not! It has us making up to 80% of our daily decisions on instinct, an instinct that is literally still back in the cave and has not evolved to keep up with modern times. Your inner cave woman is still driving the decisions of her modern counterpart.
So, why do we still INSTINCTIVELY feel drawn to men? In its simplest form because they are bigger, stronger and more adapted to survive than we are (cave woman instinct) and there are tigers out there!
Aside from being physically bigger than us, their instinct, which still drives them, is to provide for and protect us! Don’t we love them for that? It is what draws us to them, there is comfort in their presence strength and energy.
They are single focused, they get things done and like to get to the point. Your man will not do two or twelve things at once but, he will put his heart and soul into doing one thing exceptionally well, especially if it is for you and if you just let him.
I started with this point because the answers from my peers were not the fiercely independent, we don’t need men, bashing type comments. They were not even about the jobs men can do for us, the money they provide or how useful they are and I am not disputing that they are but, the comments were all about love and relationship and here are some of the words and phrases that were used.
He is my rock,
He is my everything,
I don’t need him BUT, I want him.
I CAN do everything in life by myself but, why would I when I can share it with a man?
He is my confidant, my lover, my best friend.
Companionship, loving, caring, support, listening, deep connection, understanding, someone to love and be loved in return.
Why do we feel these things about men?
Because they have an amazing capacity to love us and meet our needs when we tell them how and they have the physical strength and a masculine energy that we admire and NEED to feel safe and secure. (unless it is misdirected of course)
In so many ways we feel complete on our own BUT, there is nothing like the presence of a strong man who knows, loves and supports us, listens, cherishes and cares and then backs that up and INSTINCTIVELY uses his greater strength to protect and provide for us. Not necessarily financially, we have proved that we can do that ourselves but in all the other things, stated above that we NEED him to be.
Men, are truly amazing and this is in acknowledgement and appreciation of men.