Enjoying my last few hours in beautiful (even in the rain!) Cusco.
After a couple of weeks of culture explosion and an immersion in language, food, customs and all things S America, STARBUCKS!
Why? Because it is literally the only place I have found that serves a Cappuchino with almond milk! (I am vegan so do not use milk from animals) and, has a comfortable space to sit down with a lap top for a while.
It struck me that this is such a good reference for how we are drawn to the familiar! It is one of the huge issues people face when trying to heal from the emotional impact of abuse or, whilst trying to leave an abusive relationship or, any abuse situation!
Our minds are hard wired to revert to the familiar, whether it serves us or not! and recognising and knowing this can be a game changer. It helps also to understand trauma bonding. Take a look at this video to find out more…
Today it was a harmless coffee where I sought out what was familiar to me BUT, in the past it has been abusive relationship patterns, thoughts and behaviours that did not serve me but which I found it almost impossible to break free from.
Today, thankfully I am free!
I did the deep inner work
Saw how I was enabling
Recognised all of the negative patterns and got the support I needed to break them.
if you recognise yourself in this and want help to break free, to recognise your own value and worth and to learn to love yourself and create the life that you truly deserve then please comment and message me as that is exactly what I now help both couples and individuals to do.
You can achieve anything you want in your life!
Before you can release the past and create the life you truly deserve, you need to break free of the negative patterns that currently have you stuck.
To break free of them, you need to recognise them! to take responsibility for the role that you are playing and when you do!
that is where everything changes.